Love has to be built on a very strong, solid ground. Otherwise it becomes attachment and obsession, instead of love.
On the one hand we say that it is very difficult to make a distinction between love and attachment. On the other hand there is a huge difference. It is like day and night. Attachment is, “I am the most important and I want this…” We say without hesitation, “I want this, I want that.” In Asian cultures we hesitate to say, “I want that.” But in Western culture, people say without hesitation, “I want this, I want that, I don’t want this.” In a way, that is straight forward and good. But on the other hand it is “me” that is talking. When I am being dictated to by “me,” it is very difficult to have pure, genuine harmony and peace within me.
~ Gelek Rimpoche, Jewel Heart New York, April 7 2013
